Many turn from Jesus because of a bad experience with religious people. And this is completely understandable.

But we must be reminded that Jesus had a bad experience with religious people too.

Why, do you ask? How could Jesus, literally the symbol of the religion Christianity, be treated badly by religious people?

Well, he was killed by them. Beaten, mocked, betrayed, and crucified.

The group of religious leaders at the time, Pharisees, bribed one of Jesus’ disciples, Judas, to hand him over to the Roman soldiers so that he might be killed.

You see, Jesus isn’t the one who turns people away from Christianity. He isn’t the one who is lying to them, raping them, torturing them, abusing them, or manipulating them. That’s people. People hurt people—and people in positions of power in the church have often abused that power, using it to convince church members that it’s okay.

But y’all, this is not what Jesus designed the Church to be! The Church as a whole was created to be a safe space of healing and love. Not abuse—and unfortunately, in some places, it has very much become that.

But these stories don’t go for every church! More often than not, churches are a safe space. More often than not, pastors will help you on that healing journey. More often than not, the congregation is one that is genuine and loving.

You know how when the news picks out a group of people to judge, they always show the very worst part? The riots and the screaming and the threats?

We do this for everything—politics, LGBTQ+, different races, ages, schools, occupations, and religions.

And I’ll admit that I have done this myself, numerous times, choosing the ugliest part of one general topic or group, and judging harshly based on that one part and not looking at the whole picture.

This goes for Christianity and other religions as well—we look at the stories of Christians and churches throwing out youth who have gotten involved in not-so-amazing things. We look at testimonies from young women who have been raped by church leaders. We look at accounts from families who discovered their pastor to have been brainwashing the congregation.

But this isn’t true Christianity—this isn’t what a true faith looks like, but rather a wolf disguised in sheep’s clothing. (Matthew 7:15)

So I conclude this post with one final statement: Christianity is not a religion that will turn you away. Bad sides of it do exist, but that’s not because of God—that’s because we are sinful, messed up humans.

You are welcome, no matter your gender, race, religion, political views, and more. Why? Because God loves his children, no matter how different they are. (1 John 4:19)

Thanks for reading, have a great day!
~Willow

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18 responses to ““Religion Treated Me Badly.””

  1. Herald Staff Avatar

    A wonderfully made, extremely relevant point, Willow! Often, the criticisms are valid, but it’s a reflection and cause of us, not Him.
    –Scott

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    1. Willow Avatar

      Thank you, Scott! Amen to that.

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  2. Matthew J Hyde Avatar

    This was really good, Willow. Do you mind if I repost this for Monday?

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    1. Willow Avatar

      Thank you very much, sir. 🙃 Absolutely, I’d be very grateful, thank you!

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  3. Micah Avatar

    Thank you for writing this. I never thought about Jesus being hurt by religious people in that context before. It is so true and I pray God will bring people to this article who need this message.

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  4. Micah Avatar

    Would you be alright with me sharing this article on my website and Substack?

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    1. Willow Avatar

      Absolutely! Thank you for asking and sharing😊

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  5. Carson Avatar

    It is crazy how much consequence judgmental Christians can have. Great post!

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    1. Willow Avatar

      I agree, it really is! Thanks, Carson!

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  6. "Religion Treated Me Badly" by Willow - The Hometown Herald Avatar

    […] This post takes an honest look at some of the downfalls of the church. The problem isn’t with Jesus or the Bible—it’s with people. Scott and I have talked about this before: once you add people into the equation, mistakes are bound to happen. But as Willow points out, that doesn’t mean we should throw out the Bible or lose faith in Jesus Christ because of someone else’s failure to live biblically. Our faith shouldn’t rise or fall on another person’s shortcomings. […]

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  7. Ɀ𐌄ᕓ𐌀 Avatar

    Dang. Great post, girl! I don’t know what else to say XD. It hits hard tho.

    And you’re right—nine times out of ten people show the worst part of something to judge and fight about and all that. It’s unfair tbh. >:(

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    1. Willow Avatar

      Thanks Zeva, I’m glad you think so!!

      Yeah, we got an unfair system here…😕

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  8. Josh Avatar

    Willow,

    I really appreciate this.

    A lot of people don’t walk away from Jesus — they walk away from how they were treated by people who said they represented Him. That distinction matters to me personally.

    You’re right: Jesus Himself was betrayed and crushed by religious power. That alone should make us slow to blindly defend institutions just because they carry His name. Faith has always been vulnerable to being weaponized by people.

    At the same time, I think it’s important not to minimize the damage by saying, “Well, that wasn’t real Christianity.” When someone is abused or manipulated in a church setting, that harm is real. It doesn’t help to redefine it away. What helps is honesty, accountability, and communities that actually look like Jesus.

    For me, following Christ has meant learning to separate Him from the worst behavior of His followers — including moments when I’ve gotten it wrong myself. The faith I hold onto isn’t built on spotless institutions. It’s built on a person who consistently moved toward the wounded and confronted hypocrisy.

    I also love your reminder that we’re quick to judge whole groups by their worst examples. I’ve done that too. It’s easy to reduce something complicated to a headline version of it.

    If Christianity is going to mean anything, it has to be visibly safe, humble, and compassionate — especially toward people who’ve been hurt by it before.

    Thanks for saying this in a way that invites reflection instead of defensiveness.

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    1. Willow Avatar

      Hi Josh, thanks for taking the time to comment!

      I really appreciate your thoughts and I agree with all of what you said—this part especially hit hard:

      When someone is abused or manipulated in a church setting, that harm is real. It doesn’t help to redefine it away. What helps is honesty, accountability, and communities that actually look like Jesus.

      I’m still learning to be the compassionate Christian (or ‘mini-Christ’) that we are called to be, and church-hurt stories just emphasize the importance of that.

      Thanks again for reading and commenting, have a great day. (:

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